Email to Flylady

Hi guys,

I just send this email to Flylady. I hope she can help me a bit. How are you guys doing on getting your routines working? I will now do the things i said in my email. I hope to speak you all again soon, and some new ones too.

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Dear Flylady,

I wish I could say I was one of the many success stories of your
routines, but unluckily that hasn't happened yet. It is not you, it is
me though (Really!).

I am a 25 year old fulltime student with a chronical illness and some
autistic characteristics. I need your routines, I want to be able to
do your routines, but somehow I just can't seem to get it. Because I
just can't seem to get it right, I have problems at university and at
home. I live together with my boyfriend. Our relation isn't very good
at the moment (that's an understatement). We yell a lot to eachother
though we love eachother very much. I know what the problem is: our
CHAOS, so I need to get that out of the way. I just don't seem to be
able to.

I have been on your program for a year now. Certainly, there have been
some improvements, for a while, but it always went wrong. For
instance, at a certain point my hallway was clean, no mess at all, but
now it is full of stuff again. I try to get my routine going, but
somehow it is never in the same sequence. I keep forgetting to shine
my sink. I still don't do 15 minute declutter sessions.

I do not wanna feel sorry for myself. I do not want to break up with
my true love because of the mess in our house. I want to be able to do
this! I want to save me, my boyfriend, our relationship and our house!
So today I am starting over (again). I will go shine my sink in a
moment, and will put a cloth next to it so maybe I will remember
shining it after use. I will make a new day-to-day routine for my
house and I will go declutter for 15.

I think I need some more advice on how to actually get the routines
and keep them. Just do them every day doesn't seem to work for me. I
forget or because of my illness I'm not able to do them. Even when I
have had the routine for a while, I can suddenly lose it again without
any apparent reason. I really need some tips to get going and keep
going in the right way. If you have any tips or encouragements how to
help me, please do so.

A Flybaby from Holland

Ps. For me and other flybabies that need encouragements I have set up
a forum a while ago. If they want to talk to people that are in the
same position as them and can encourage them while they FLY or just
starting to lift upwards, I hope they will join us at
https://flybaby.forumotion.com/index.htm